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Sorry I haven’t been around much. Life has been crazy and although we’re in a slow-spot at the moment, I know it’s not over yet.
Mini-Me moving down here has changed life for all of us. Now that Draco and I have someone else to care for, and to consider, a lot has changed (or changed back, anyway). It’s mostly been good and, aside from the occasional bad day here and there, everyone seems happy.
The business isn’t really moving yet, but some of that has been a hold-up on my part. If someone were to place an order, I’d fill it, but I haven’t really gotten up new pictures on the FB page yet, or started advertising some new ideas I’ve had thanks to a few dear friends. Most of that is waiting until we move and I have room to work.
Mini-Me is still job hunting and although Draco still has his job, he’s still searching for something local. Eventually, this job will run out and his company will move on to other places. We’re here for keeps, so a local job must be found.
The move thing is still up in the air. We all finally agreed to look for something else, somewhere else, but when Draco gave our notice to the landlady, she said she wants us to talk to her when we get our taxes. There’s a possibility we could get the house we’ve been secretly wanting for months. That would keep me in this neighborhood for sure. It has (almost) everything I was looking for!
So, in a few more weeks, we should know something there. I’ll be so happy to have that question finally answered!
I’ve been cooking more, and breaking out new — and old — receipes, but I forget to take pictures when I cook. So no new receipes for the blog yet. 😦
Last night, Draco and Mini-Me cooked spaghetti together while I watched Monk and tonight, Draco has been cooking pulled BBQ chicken for sandwhiches all day, so I’ve gotten a couple days off dinner-duty. In return, I got up and made homemade biscuits and sausage gravy with sliced canteloupe this morning. It was awesome and they ate it all.
We’ve been spending time together as a family, and it feels good, so even though I have missed my blog in a lot of ways, I’ve been taking my own advice and taking life by the horns.
Life hasn’t been all good, or all bad. It’s been a steady combination of the two, kind of like that place where two rivers meet. In some places, the blending is seamless, in others, the water can be down-right turbulent, but we’re all learning to navigate the rapids much better than we ever have. We’ve come close a time or two, but so far, we haven’t flipped the boat yet!
In spiritual news, I’ve had some things happen recently and my previous path is being mostly left behind. I’ve been eclectic Pagan for years and now I’m looking for ways to blend my heritage. I’m Cherokee-Welsh, (Welsh has Celtic roots), so I’m searching for where those meet and forging a new path for myself.
If 2013 has had a theme so far, I think that’s what it is — blending and combining — searching for that place where more than one way meets and can travel together for a while. It’s strengthening my bonds with those I love most and creating an over-all peace in my life that I’m not certain I’ve ever known before, and that, dear friends, is fabulous!
I’ve made progress in my Shadow Work with Hecate and I’ve made peace with a lot. I know I still have work to do, but for now, the lightening of the load feels good.
It feels good to just be myself. No regrets, no excuses.
Well, I suppose that about wraps the news from my side of the forest. What’s going on in your neck of the woods?
Today, I took a leap of faith and began the process of bringing PoM to where I want it to be. I have signed up with a review company and will be (hopefully) starting to do product reviews soon.
I don’t intend to turn my blog into a review machine and not blog like I usually do. Reviews will most likely be one or two out of the week and will be in addition to my regular blogging.
At some point in the near future, I am also supposed to do a give-away for my own business (that Mini-Me and I will be running) at a friend’s blog (we’re still working out the details there) and I will be reopening that business officially on January 1st.
To say that starting 2013 will be different from any so far is an understatement. Mini-Me lives with us, is currently job-hunting and volunteering at the Equine Rescue three days a week, Draco still works (and I’m still the only person in the house that can drive), I’m reopening the business I closed last summer, I still intend to blog and doing reviews means stepping up my social media presence. I will be busy, busy, busy whie I work on balancing all of this and still have time for connecting with my spirituality and my family.
Needless to say, this will be my last round caring for my landlady’s pets while she is away. If I find time to give pets, other than my own, a piece of me, I will go volunteer at the local SPCA where the demand is not all day, every day. I love them all, and I’ve enjoyed it, but I honestly don’t see me having time for much besides what I’m already committed to.
(I see me blogging on my phone in parking lots and carrying a craft-bag on my shoulder everywhere I go to optimize my time usage as it is.)
Needless to say, I’m all kinds of excited, but I know that what I’m undertaking is huge. I’m sick of empty, mindless hours watching TV shows that are surely killing my brain cells faster than any drug ever could.
For years, I avoided having a full life, so afraid that if I attempted anything, it would be another failure. Something else for my mother to shake her head in disdain over. Well, Mom is gone now and I see the damage years of brainwashing has done and I intend to break the cycle. If I don’t succeed immediately, I will keep trying until I do. I’m not giving up this time. Period. I will become the person she, nor I, ever gave me the chance to be.
So, with that said, I say “Come on, 2013! Let’s do this!”, and prepare to step into my future!
I spent a good long while on the phone with Draco yesterday, talking about what works and what doesn’t. I told him that the way we have been doing things, just isn’t working anymore.
It’s no secret that we’ve had some problems with him working out of town. Lack of communication has been a big problem. Ok, let me correct that, I have been attempting to communicate, but I feel like he just hasn’t been hearing me. I guess that’s one of the pitfalls of a 16 year relationship. At some point, one or both people stop listening.
Anyway, I told him that things aren’t working this way. There is nothing I can do about him working out of town. He says he’s going to find another job working in town, and he may. Rumor control says the company may be in transition, and those transitions may change things, but we’re not certain what. There are a lot of “ifs” and “maybes” running around, but it’s like I told him, I can’t live my life, or build a new one, on” ifs” and” maybes”. I also told him that I don’t feel that it’s fair for him to make all the decisions about our life here, when he’s never here.
For 16 years, I’ve let him rule the roost. He’s had final say (and veto power) on anything and everything. That was fine when he was here to deal with things, but now he’s not. I’m the one having to deal with it all, and I think that I should have more say in what’s going on. I also told him that I feel like he’s no longer making decisions based on our (or my) best interest. That his decisions are based on what he does and does not want to deal with. That’s not fair to me.
I must admit, I expected a fight. I expected him to flip out and for us to go through a power struggle over it all, but he didn’t. He actually admitted that some of his recent decisions have been based on him not wanting to deal with this or that right now, without much thought to what is best for me, or what I need or want.
We basically came to the agreement that I will stop bitching about him working out of town (I told him that he knows I don’t like it and wish he would get a job here, but me bitching about it all the time isn’t going to change anything), and I will start having control of what’s happening here. He will agree to whatever decisions I make (like I have him for the last 16 years), as long as I keep him informed on what I’m doing so that he knows what’s going on when he’s home on the weekends.
With that settled, I made the decision to come back to WordPress for the millionth time. My online bestie, @PonderingMama is probably going to kill me for moving again (she’s the one that put together this design for my blog over on Blogger). Luckily, I’m well versed in WordPress, and I was able to duplicate the design here with no trouble at all.
Why did I come back? That’s actually kinda complicated to answer.
For starters, I have to admit that I’ve never cared much for Blogger. I’ve been over there off and on, and while some people swear by them, I just can’t get a good vibe happening. My blog was beautiful (thanks to @PonderingMama), everything looked right, but I’m big on energy, and I just couldn’t get a good feeling happening.
WordPress does seem a little more complicated, but once you get used to it, it’s actually much simpler to navigate. I had my hosted blog through WordPress about a year ago and loved it. I cried when it messed up and went “poof” to wherever blogs go when they go “poof”.
Also? I’m about to move and I’m not sure what my internet situation will be till I get a few things straightened out, and the WordPress app on my phone is so much better and easier to work that my Blogger app. The Blogger app is constantly crashing on me and I blogged from my phone on WordPress for months and never had a problem.
And, there is the upcoming thing with the business. I want to have hosting for my blog again eventually and I will need a website for my business. I can’t afford to pay for hosting in two places and WordPress has a better hosting setup than Blogger and I hope to have my website for my business and my blog attached so it’s not so much to keep up with either.
I’ve had more hits on my blog today, while I was “moving in” than I’ve had in a month on Blogger.
So, for all those reasons, I am here, and I’m actually happy to be here. If I’m going to rebuild my blogging empire, (Ha-ha! That’s even funny to me!) then I feel that here is where that will happen. I sure hope so anyway. J
It is some kind of nasty where I live right now. Apparently, the wind got so bad last night while we were under a tornado watch, that it knocked out the power and broke the umbrella we had on the porch.
Draco, of course, is still out-of-town and I have had some very spiritual things happening to me lately that I’m still trying to sort out and I’m not quite ready to talk about. Until I get it sorted, the Card of the Day feature is on hold.
I have made many decisions lately, both personal and for my family.
I mentioned us moving before, and we are still going to, but things have changed a smidge. The apartment that Mini-Me is moving out of, we won’t be taking. After giving it a good-looking over, we decided that it was just too small for us and we would like something bigger. A large part of that is to do with our business, which I have also made some decisions about.
I have decided to close the business for the moment. Honestly, I haven’t been doing that much business and it’s just not quite what I really want. I will be opening another business at a later date, but for now, I need to get us moved and possibly find a part-time job. Once all of that is settled, I am going to take stock of what I have, what I want to do and I’ll be adding some stuff and then I’ll go from there. We’ll see what happens.
Now that word is starting to circulate about our move, people are coming around and trying to help. L is taking it better than I thought she would, and her family now understands why. It’s like I told L’s mom yesterday (which is where I spent practically my entire day), we’re not leaving because there’s a problem or we’re not happy. The simple truth is that we haven’t had our own place in about 3 years now, and it’s beyond time for us to get out on our own and do it again. I know it will be hard and a little more expensive, but the things worth having in life are never easy.
Draco and I need our own space to grow and explore our relationship now that we have an empty nest, we need space to practice our religion without the worry of how it will affect anyone but us. We need to be able to laugh, love and fight loudly if that’s what we need or want to do. Those are things that it’s hard to do when you live with other people.
Our time here has been wonderful for the most part, and we still love L and Little Diva to pieces and they will continue to be a big part of our lives going into the future. We still plan to get together regularly, include them in family things and have them play a big part in our lives. I’m grateful for everything the God and Goddess has given us in our relationship with L and I don’t plan to lose it.
Our next hurdle will be this coming month. We have a lot of money to put together in just a few weeks all while we try to sort the issue of after living with other people for 3 years, we don’t really have much in the way of household stuff of our own.
I’m tickled though, about a set of dishes L gave me yesterday from her stash at her Mom’s house. The plates and bowls have herbs on them and they are awesome!
Well, that’s it for now. Maybe later today I can pull one of the plates out of the box and take a picture to include.
Draco and I have been really focused lately about getting our lives back on track. We took the years following Mini-Me coming to live with us (I was a Weekend-Warrior until she was 13 – not by choice) to raise a family. At the same time she was leaving home to start her own life, my mother’s health began to fail and we dedicated the next 2 years of life to trying to help my parents. For the last several months, we’ve been staying with our wonderful friend, E, and her daughter, Mini-Diva.
We really hadn’t planned on changing anything until some recent developments.
About a month ago, we applied for a loan for the first time in years, in an effort to rebuild our credit. As a young couple, we messed our credit all up, not realizing how important it really was to being able to live a normal life. In the last 7 or 8 years, we really haven’t touched our credit at all. It was bad, we were broke, so there wasn’t much we could do anyway.
We went to the loan company prepared to offer collateral because of our now non-existent credit, but without much hope of actually getting approved. We couldn’t even get a bank account until recently because our credit was so horrible.
We did get approved, which came as a shock to us both, but not for very much. We also got some advice while we were there based on why we only got approved for such a low amount.
Now, the car is acting up. We have no clue what’s wrong with it, so we don’t know what to do to fix it. Dad recently purchased a “new” car from a local dealership’s used lot, and it got us to thinking about those “Buy Here, Pay Here” places since we’re attempting to rebuild credit anyway.
We checked out a few, but since I have a licence, but only work at home and Draco works but has to get his licence back, they won’t sell us a car.
On a whim, we went to the dealership my Dad recently used. We looked at 2004 Ford Taurus. Not a new car, but newer than the Saturn, which is a 1996. We didn’t think we could actually get anything, but after talking to the salesman, we got approved for that car. Albeit with a down payment we can’t quite afford right now, but still, we got approved.
The salesman decided to impart some advice as well, just as the loan company had, and it was a repeat of what the loan company said.
Our loan was so low and our down payment was so high because of our situation.
We have lived with someone for years. Although we were at my parents for 2 solid years, it obviously doesn’t count because nothing was in our name. Here at E’s, it’s the same way. They all want us to have our own place (doesn’t really matter if we rent or buy as long as it’s under our name), utilities of some sort in our names (even if it’s just a cable bill or home phone bill). Residential stability (find a place and don’t move), work stability (Draco has worked with this company for about 5 years now total, but has left the company a few times when work was slow and has only gone back this time a few months ago).
We were surprised to find out that while I have no credit score at all, Draco has a mid-line credit rating (we have no clue how since we haven’t used his credit in years until we got this loan recently). He has what is considered “slow credit”. In spite of my lack of a score and his mid-line score, we could have gotten more on the loan and a lower down payment on the car if we had met the stability terms.
So, basically, in order for us to ever be able to rebuild our credit and have anything, we are going to have to get our own place again.
We haven’t started actively looking for anything as of yet, but we have explained the situation to E and she understands. We’re keeping our eyes and ears open for anything that becomes available in the immediate area and we’re about to start trying to save up for deposits. It’s going to be a process, and it means I’ll be spending some time alone with Draco working out of town, but it’s a step we need to take to get our lives back on track.
Wish us luck!